Being a person of color who enjoys BDSM can be an isolating experience—but that shouldn’t be the case. We have the same rights as everyone to indulge in our deepest sexual desires and receive support through other POC and allies as well. This month I ramble on about… Being POC and Kinky Inclusion facilitating exclusion … [Read more…]
It can be hard to say what you want and need but it is important to draw lines in the sand about what your boundaries are. This month I will discuss just what that looks like for me… My personal/kink boundaries Kinky Question of The Day Next podcast topics: Being POC in kink, finding your … [Read more…]
As humans we have an innate obsession with placing labels on everything, including ourselves. Labels help give people a false sense of order and a way to separate things. However, we aren’t things; we’re people first and heavily using labels to categorize people isn’t fair. It takes away the depth and complexity each of us … [Read more…]
My puppy is back and it’s been an adjustment for us both. I couldn’t help but chuckle softly as I was watched him express genuine over-the-top anger at the video game he was currently playing as he cursed and threw down the controller. It made me laugh until I caught myself mid thought, ‘He needs … [Read more…]
Some guys like a finger in the ass…some don’t. I’ve learned over the years never and I mean NEVER assume…it makes an ass…well never mind that pun is too easy. But seriously, sometimes girls want to put things (mostly a finger or three) in a guy’s ass. Is it just me or are men generally … [Read more…]
I’ve often said that I believe flirting should be treated as a fine art. It is not something one can wander into with no experience, no clear objective, and certainly no quips on hand. For me when I am flirted with it either goes into one of two categories: 1) Nice try bum. Next! or … [Read more…]
With a little under two weeks left for my sub-hunt things have started to pick up a bit. I am definitely interacting with more submissives on and offline than ever before. Is it wrong to feel fucking womanly knowing I am chatting with at least seven twelve fourteen different potentials? All this exploration now has … [Read more…]
Earlier this week I attended a local BDSM munch with the sweet sub. Last minute plans entailed my inviting a close friend of mine as well and we were off. Upon arriving, the sweet sub was as handsome as usual and dressed as a mild mannered frat boy (how can someone look so innocent but … [Read more…]
For inquiring minds: Did the new bf meet the goal of 26 orgasms in 26 days? The simple answer is “No”. On top of that we didn’t even see each other last week. Last night was the first night we’ve seen each other since last Monday and I when I got to his place the … [Read more…]
