For those in the know, I’ve been around. I started my kink journey on the West coast and the community, dedication, and peer pairing I received, even as a wee-little baby Domme were formidable for me. One of the first spaces I was allowed into, although I had no business there at the time, was … [Read more…]
Throughout my 15+ years embedded in kinky spaces I have made an observation. There is a distinct overlap between those who identify as neurodiverse and those who are part of the BDSM community. Noticing the patterns of this intersectionality has been even easier, because finally, we as a society, are becoming increasingly aware of neurodiversity, especially … [Read more…]
Topping from the bottom. Bratting from the bottom. Topping from below. Sub-sparring. I’ve heard it called many things. This discussion bores me but I think it’s crucial to identify the flaws embedded within it. In my opinion, this phrase is possibly one of the most misunderstood in the entire BDSM lexicon and a useless phrase … [Read more…]
I know a lot of junkies. Not your typical run of the mill junkies that you might be thinking of. No. I’m talking about the kind that are a seemingly common staple in the kinky and/or polyamory community: NRC addicts. Let’s be honest with ourselves, we’re all here for the endorphins. Each and every one … [Read more…]
“Greetings to you, the lucky finder of this Golden Ticket, from Mistress d20domme! I spank you warmly on the bottom! Tremendous things are in store for you! Many wonderful surprises await you!“ If you’re American, you are no doubt familiar with the tale of Roald Dahl’s 1964 novel ‘Charlie and the Chocolate Factory‘. Willy Wonka, the founder of … [Read more…]
I recently heard this term in a vanilla setting, made as a passing ‘scoffing’ comment and it really stuck with me. Let me be honest, it struck a chord with my Femdom loins. Why did it excite me? If I had to describe what a psychological vigilante was and why I embody it, that’s easy. … [Read more…]
The new year is upon us and with that usually comes aspects of change – change that we are excited for, but change nonetheless. But…if you’re a self torturing-masochist like myself, it may mean laying the next layer to the foundation of your ideal 24/7 LIFEstyle. For years I have put in the time and … [Read more…]
Admittedly I was a bit cautious to even touch her hair, despite the appropriately sexy bob hairstyle she wore. What the fuck was I doing??? Yes, I had requested to rent her for the hour.Yes, I had talked with the owner for weeks to set this up.Yes, I had some reservations initially. But, I was … [Read more…]
As I looked down at him writhing in purposefully bargained for pain I couldn’t help thinking to myself… ‘One year ago I started the search for a slave and with his helpless body beneath me, I could say it was worth the wait thus far.‘ Was he “the” slave? The one I’ve been cautiously creating … [Read more…]
