You’re not a good dominant if you don’t have a way to make ends meet.You’re not a good dominant if you’re free loading on friends or family.You’re not a good dominant if you don’t have control of your own life. I know that sounds harsh and comes off as elitist but it’s my honest opinion. … [Read more…]
Seriously. I’m not trying to be hateful, just honest. I’ve had the pleasure (mostly) of being able to be a part of local BDSM communities around the world. Some have run like well oiled machines, friendly faces and helping hands all around. Others have been run like the classroom of a preschool teacher’s worst nightmare. … [Read more…]
I have a right to be choosy. I can choose who kneels for me…who kisses my heels…who worships my body…and more importantly who serves me. Just because I’m fat doesn’t mean I don’t get to be choosy. I’ve mentioned before that I have a strict age preference for the men I want to serve me. … [Read more…]
After my trip to London I feel a bit empty. Aside from my personal issues while there my scene experience was great…too great in fact. It’s made me feel as if the scene in this area is not where I belong. When I was overseas it was like a parallel universe where plus size dominant … [Read more…]
Listen up men of the interwebs…swingers ≠ polyamorous I have a few profiles floating around online and all of them mention my being in an open relationship. Despite my stating its variance to swinging the young (and sometimes much too old), dense men writing me don’t seem to understand the distinct differences. So it is … [Read more…]
Recently a guy told me that he was giving up BDSM after his first experience with me because I didn’t provide him with what he deemed an enticing encounter (i.e. I wouldn’t have sex with him). Now I don’t know which is more pathetic, the fact that he so haphazardly (and falsely in my opinion) … [Read more…]
Last week I was speaking with a friend of mine who had a problem with my blog. She told me: “I hate that you say we are mundane. Why do you do that?” The “we” she is referring to are the non BDSM/vanilla folks. The weekend prior to seeing her, I met up with the … [Read more…]
If you’re a submissive male and you’ve signed yourself up for BDSM, you might as well signed in blood. You beg, plead, throw grown men tantrums, and all but cry to get the things you “want”. But honestly it’s never about what you want. Part of your submissive appeal is that you are just that…submissive. … [Read more…]
There is a phenomenon that I have noticed within the BDSM community that I cannot stay quiet about any longer. It’s something that makes me stick out like a sore thumb at events, on websites, and even among fellow kinksters. Being black. I’ve noticed that I rarely come across black Dommes and even rarer are … [Read more…]
