Topping from the bottom. Bratting from the bottom. Topping from below. Sub-sparring. I’ve heard it called many things. This discussion bores me but I think it’s crucial to identify the flaws embedded within it. In my opinion, this phrase is possibly one of the most misunderstood in the entire BDSM lexicon and a useless phrase … [Read more…]
I know a lot of junkies. Not your typical run of the mill junkies that you might be thinking of. No. I’m talking about the kind that are a seemingly common staple in the kinky and/or polyamory community: NRC addicts. Let’s be honest with ourselves, we’re all here for the endorphins. Each and every one … [Read more…]
“Greetings to you, the lucky finder of this Golden Ticket, from Mistress d20domme! I spank you warmly on the bottom! Tremendous things are in store for you! Many wonderful surprises await you!“ If you’re American, you are no doubt familiar with the tale of Roald Dahl’s 1964 novel ‘Charlie and the Chocolate Factory‘. Willy Wonka, the founder of … [Read more…]
I recently heard this term in a vanilla setting, made as a passing ‘scoffing’ comment and it really stuck with me. Let me be honest, it struck a chord with my Femdom loins. Why did it excite me? If I had to describe what a psychological vigilante was and why I embody it, that’s easy. … [Read more…]
The new year is upon us and with that usually comes aspects of change – change that we are excited for, but change nonetheless. ButâŚif youâre a self torturing-masochist like myself, it may mean laying the next layer to the foundation of your ideal 24/7 LIFEstyle. For years I have put in the time and … [Read more…]
As a longtime advocate and participant of Locktober as a Keyholder (and self-locked one year, for science!), chastity isn’t new to me. The pros and cons aren’t at all hard to discern. However, when I first became aware of it, I only knew it from a vanilla context to rebuild trust after cheating. The more … [Read more…]
Keep your standards too high Iâve been told on more than one occasion⌠âWow you have really high standards.â or âMaybe your standards are too high.â The thing is, I donât believe in having âtoo high standardsâ. I believe in unrealistic standards â they can be high, low, or just shit. Over the years in … [Read more…]
Poly people, sit down, *whew*, let’s have a chat. Oh wait, let me dial the ENM participants in as well, they’ll want to hear this. Yes, I know they’re new around here but this is for them too. Everyone here? Great, get comfortable, but not too comfortable, as that seems to be part of the … [Read more…]
It’s a new year and as we all like to pretend it’s time for change. Real change this time, right?Whether you like it or not, it is as Heraclitus said, ‘Nothing is permanent except change.’ It’s inevitable. So why do we hate it so much or fight it when it’s presented to us? Simply put, … [Read more…]
