Topping from the bottom. Bratting from the bottom. Topping from below. Sub-sparring. I’ve heard it called many things. This discussion bores me but I think it’s crucial to identify the flaws embedded within it. In my opinion, this phrase is possibly one of the most misunderstood in the entire BDSM lexicon and a useless phrase … [Read more…]
“Greetings to you, the lucky finder of this Golden Ticket, from Mistress d20domme! I spank you warmly on the bottom! Tremendous things are in store for you! Many wonderful surprises await you!“ If you’re American, you are no doubt familiar with the tale of Roald Dahl’s 1964 novel ‘Charlie and the Chocolate Factory‘. Willy Wonka, the founder of … [Read more…]
When you think about BDSM and the aspect of service, I bet one of the first things that come to your mind is about willpower. How can a submissive endure that?Why do they agree to this over and over?What can they be telling themselves to push through?When will they give up?Where do they summon the … [Read more…]
Keep your standards too high I’ve been told on more than one occasion… ‘Wow you have really high standards.’ or ‘Maybe your standards are too high.’ The thing is, I don’t believe in having “too high standards”. I believe in unrealistic standards – they can be high, low, or just shit. Over the years in … [Read more…]
When I make my mind up it’s hard to change. Not impossible but you will have your work cut out for you. With that in mind, when I decided I wanted a submissive in my life, wanted a life of D/s, and decided I was going to give this my all, well, it was and … [Read more…]
I took his power and now I was the one complaining. I’ll admit when Puppy and I first met, we both entered into a respective BDSM frenzy; his submissive, mine dominant. We were communicating with each other nearly 24/7, save for some sleeping hours we wedged in between. We moved very fast by all standards … [Read more…]
“Mistress, please just break me down.”“I’ll be anything you want.”“Remind me that I am nothing.” These are all “sexy phrases” I’m assuming submissives have heard or seen in porn or worse? I say assume because for me, phrases like these immediately take me out of my dominant headspace and replaces it with a big “huh?!”. … [Read more…]
As long as I’ve been on my kink journey, I have remained steadfast in one notion: I want to be catered to. I want to be put first and my happiness right next to it. I often dreamed of having an equally OCD submissive who could clean my home from top to bottom, maid’s uniform, … [Read more…]
I won’t bore you with the usual caution to not trust just anyone, no matter the size of their toybag. I will, however, share with you some things I’ve cultivated and strived for over the years to become what I consider, a Femdom of respectable caliber. It varies greatly when we get to the specific … [Read more…]
