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Thoughts

Avoid the ‘A-Hole Way’

December 5, 2024 by d20domme Leave a Comment

Breaking up in a BDSM power exchange dynamic can be particularly challenging due to the unique emotional, psychological, and structural elements of the relationship. These breakups often feel more difficult for all involved. This is noticeable as part of what makes these relationships so special, is the depths and expansiveness of where they reach. Power … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Community, Thoughts Tagged: bdsm, break-up, community, D/s, female domination, FemDom, manners, relationships, self awareness, thinking

Debunking ‘topping from the bottom’

June 5, 2023 by d20domme Leave a Comment

Topping from the bottom. Bratting from the bottom. Topping from below. Sub-sparring. I’ve heard it called many things. This discussion bores me but I think it’s crucial to identify the flaws within it. In my opinion, this phrase is possibly one of the most misunderstood in the entire BDSM lexicon and a useless phrase that … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Thoughts Tagged: bdsm, bottoming, D/s, relationships, submission, thinking, topping, topping from the bottom

The madness of temptation

September 5, 2022 by d20domme

When you think about BDSM and the aspect of service, I bet one of the first things that come to your mind is about willpower. How can a submissive endure that?Why do they agree to this over and over?What can they be telling themselves to push through?When will they give up?Where do they summon the … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Thoughts Tagged: D/s, FemDom, psychology, submission, thinking, willpower

Keep your standards too high

March 5, 2022 by d20domme

Keep your standards too high I’ve been told on more than one occasion… ‘Wow you have really high standards.’ or ‘Maybe your standards are too high.’ The thing is, I don’t believe in having “too high standards”. I believe in unrealistic standards – they can be high, low, or just shit. Over the years in … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Relationships, Thoughts Tagged: D/s, dating, FemDom, love, relationships, self awareness, self love, submission, thinking

Rant: Poly =/= ‘Open for business’

February 7, 2022 by d20domme

Poly people, sit down, *whew*, let’s have a chat. Oh wait, let me dial the ENM participants in as well, they’ll want to hear this. Yes, I know they’re new around here but this is for them too. Everyone here? Great, get comfortable, but not too comfortable, as that seems to be part of the … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Community, Rants, Relationships, Thoughts Tagged: community, ENM, ethical non monogamy, FemDom, poly, polyamory, polyandry, rant, relationships, thinking

To live is to change, is to grow

January 5, 2022 by d20domme

It’s a new year and as we all like to pretend it’s time for change. Real change this time, right?Whether you like it or not, it is as Heraclitus said, ‘Nothing is permanent except change.’ It’s inevitable. So why do we hate it so much or fight it when it’s presented to us? Simply put, … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Femdom, Personal Journal, Relationships, Thoughts Tagged: bdsm, D/s, female led relationship, FemDom, kink, male submission, polyamory, relationships, slave, thinking

Rant: The sometimes sub

October 6, 2020 by d20domme

When I make my mind up it’s hard to change. Not impossible but you will have your work cut out for you. With that in mind, when I decided I wanted a submissive in my life, wanted a life of D/s, and decided I was going to give this my all, well, it was and … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Personal Journal, Rants, Thoughts Tagged: bdsm, expectations, fantasy, FemDom, flr, rant, reality, submission, submissives

#BlackLivesMatter

June 5, 2020 by d20domme

Right now is a particularly difficult and tragic time for the black community in the United States of America. The world is watching us fail our black and POC citizens across the board. There’s a message bigger than any kink topics I can offer this month. I am sharing an infographic for those of you … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Community, Femdom, Personal Journal, Rants, Thoughts Tagged: allies, black lives matter, blm, change, community, inequality, PoC, racism, reality, resources, support

I like boys who like girly things

May 5, 2020 by d20domme

It was a long way into my kinky journey before I had given the proper amount of thinking to why I have always enjoyed the sight (and very idea!) of boys who like “girly” things. I didn’t grow up in the modern times we now find ourselves in, where gender is fluid, and crosses boundaries … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Femdom, Thoughts Tagged: cross dress, forced feminization, heterocross, personal, perspective, role reversal, sexy, sissification, thoughts
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