As humans we have an innate obsession with placing labels on everything, including ourselves. Labels help give people a false sense of order and a way to separate things. However, we aren’t things; we’re people first and heavily using labels to categorize people isn’t fair. It takes away the depth and complexity each of us … [Read more…]
A while ago, I was a guest of Sadie’s on her podcast Talkin’ Taboo. We had a lovely chat (as well as a her bio-pup sneaking in!) about a lot of the truths I live with as the type of Femdom I am. We chatted about… My local kink community Viewpoints as a POC and … [Read more…]
A Contribution Writing for Kink Weekly Did reading that title send a little shiver down your spine? It use to do the same for me too. When I first entered the scene many years ago (but who’s counting!), Age play wasn’t really ‘in’. It wasn’t a kink people were talking about. There were no spaces … [Read more…]
A Contribution Writing for Kink Weekly You may have heard the phrase “Toxic masculinity” a lot recently and rightfully so. It’s a reference to culturally-constructed ideals that highlight the violent, emotionally and sexually aggressive behavior perpetrated by male identified people. In my opinion this is a gendered behavior encompassing masculinity on a whole. It’s a … [Read more…]
I never like to get on my high horse and it’s part of the reason I’ve kept quiet up until now but silent I can no longer be. This is a growing issue not only in my own local community but across the whole of BDSM communities alike. It’s an issue that is increasingly giving … [Read more…]
Last month while I was in puppy and I were lucky enough to sit down with the lovely Floss and Bakji Ben. Those two were a blast to get off on tangents with haha. We discussed: How to stay connected with your kink partner long distance Rituals and chastity Overseas vs home kink scene and … [Read more…]
Seriously. I’m not trying to be hateful, just honest. I’ve had the pleasure (mostly) of being able to be a part of local BDSM communities around the world. Some have run like well oiled machines, friendly faces and helping hands all around. Others have been run like the classroom of a preschool teacher’s worst nightmare. … [Read more…]
This episode covers different kinky roles and good places on the web to meet fellow kinksters. Here are the podcast highlights… Different kinky roles and their distinctions Where are the best places on the web to meet fellow kinksters Kinky Question of The Day Next week’s topics: Subspace, sub drop and aftercare, hard and soft … [Read more…]
I’m having a mid-kink identity crisis. I’ve come to notice it’s not as easy as, “I think therefore I am” within the kink community or kinky mindset. Over the years I’ve evolved into my own image of what I want to embody as kink. There are certain activities I won’t engage in and others I … [Read more…]
