Throughout my 15+ years embedded in kinky spaces I have made an observation. There is a distinct overlap between those who identify as neurodiverse and those who are part of the BDSM community. Noticing the patterns of this intersectionality has been even easier, because finally, we as a society, are becoming increasingly aware of neurodiversity, especially … [Read more…]
Poly people, sit down, *whew*, let’s have a chat. Oh wait, let me dial the ENM participants in as well, they’ll want to hear this. Yes, I know they’re new around here but this is for them too. Everyone here? Great, get comfortable, but not too comfortable, as that seems to be part of the … [Read more…]
Well, this is my personal decree that I am, as of this year, 100% done playing with newbies in the kink community. I know that sounds harsh and elitist but, that’s my preference now. Blame stupid boys for being stupid. After years and years of painstakingly meeting new submissives, coddling cucks, cultivating what appears to … [Read more…]
As anyone knows, this current pandemic has combined some of the worst elements of humanity for us. We have fears about an invisible, hard to detect contagion on top of forced social and physical isolation by our governments. Even on the surface it’s easy to see why this is a stressful time for even the … [Read more…]
Right now is a particularly difficult and tragic time for the black community in the United States of America. The world is watching us fail our black and POC citizens across the board. There’s a message bigger than any kink topics I can offer this month. I am sharing an infographic for those of you … [Read more…]
Long before the virus broke fully out, I had my own ideas about social gatherings, touching, close quarter playing and more. To be honest, I don’t really like being in an enclosed space with sweaty people and body fluids. Beyond my general dislike for my own sweat, let alone someone else’s, I’ve witnessed quite a … [Read more…]
“Mistress, please just break me down.”“I’ll be anything you want.”“Remind me that I am nothing.” These are all “sexy phrases” I’m assuming submissives have heard or seen in porn or worse? I say assume because for me, phrases like these immediately take me out of my dominant headspace and replaces it with a big “huh?!”. … [Read more…]
As long as I’ve been on my kink journey, I have remained steadfast in one notion: I want to be catered to. I want to be put first and my happiness right next to it. I often dreamed of having an equally OCD submissive who could clean my home from top to bottom, maid’s uniform, … [Read more…]
We all want the adventure, excitement, and fun that accompanies the best relationships. How do you do that if your romance is draining you instead of filling you up energetically? Have you felt overwhelmed, exhausted, and negatively impacted by thoughts of someone, in this case a partner, for most of the day? It could be possible … [Read more…]
