After my trip to London I feel a bit empty. Aside from my personal issues while there my scene experience was great…too great in fact. It’s made me feel as if the scene in this area is not where I belong. When I was overseas it was like a parallel universe where plus size dominant … [Tell me more…]
Listen up men of the interwebs…swingers ≠ polyamorous I have a few profiles floating around online and all of them mention my being in an open relationship. Despite my stating its variance to swinging the young (and sometimes much too old), dense men writing me don’t seem to understand the distinct differences. So it is … [Tell me more…]
Recently a guy told me that he was giving up BDSM after his first experience with me because I didn’t provide him with what he deemed an enticing encounter (i.e. I wouldn’t have sex with him). Now I don’t know which is more pathetic, the fact that he so haphazardly (and falsely in my opinion) … [Tell me more…]
Last week I was speaking with a friend of mine who had a problem with my blog. She told me: “I hate that you say we are mundane. Why do you do that?” The “we” she is referring to are the non BDSM/vanilla folks. The weekend prior to seeing her, I met up with the … [Tell me more…]
If you’re a submissive male and you’ve signed yourself up for BDSM, you might as well signed in blood. You beg, plead, throw grown men tantrums, and all but cry to get the things you “want”. But honestly it’s never about what you want. Part of your submissive appeal is that you are just that…submissive. … [Tell me more…]
There is a phenomenon that I have noticed within the BDSM community that I cannot stay quiet about any longer. It’s something that makes me stick out like a sore thumb at events, on websites, and even among fellow kinksters. Being black. I’ve noticed that I rarely come across black Dommes and even rarer are … [Tell me more…]
I was talking with the bf the other night when the topic of foreskin came up. Yes, we have the strangest conversations at 4am. But, for those of you who have not had the pleasure, foreskin is that nifty extra skin covering the penis when it has not been hacked…er…circumsized. It is undoubtedly one of … [Tell me more…]