Last week I was speaking with a friend of mine who had a problem with my blog. She told me: “I hate that you say we are mundane. Why do you do that?” The “we” she is referring to are the non BDSM/vanilla folks.
The weekend prior to seeing her, I met up with the sweet sub I talked about but this time we met up at the mall to do some panty shopping. I’ve never been one for sissifying my sub but somehow the thought of this broad-shouldered beau in a pair of pink, tight panties really stirs something within me! As we riffled thru the store’s baskets of clearance panties I was excited to watch him pick out underwear.
It was an interesting insight into guys who wear these types of things. I teased him that he picked out more girly undies than I would’ve worn! But I guess if you’re going wear women’s clothing why not go all the way. The funniest thing to me was when we were checking out the cashier just assumed that the underwear was for me as she handed me the receipt even though he had paid…if only she knew!
He was gentleman throughout our shopping spree as we whisked from store to store where he ended up buying a cute french maid outfit but did not find anything worthy at the adult store.
That is a typical weekend for me.
What’s interesting is that I have gotten this complainant before. Many people have a problem with my using of the word ‘Mundane.’
Let’s make this simple: I call you mundane because you are boring.
At least to me. But who gives a shit about my opinion of you?
It’s not meant in a derogatory way. In my mind a life that doesn’t involve some form of kinkiness seems quite frankly…unappealing. It is one of the few reasons why I also think we are not all meant to be put into such boxes. Some people are fine with routine and the “mundane” things that vanilla relationships have to offer. But, honestly this regime just doesn’t suit everyone and if we (non-vanilla) types were to be forced into such arrangements it would probably (and usually does) end badly.
For me, it doesn’t really affect me whether or not if people are accepting of my choices in my personal life. It’s refreshing that I find most kinksters feel the same. It’s the vanilla folks that seem to be getting their granny panties in a bunch. Which leads me to believe it is similar to the mentality of someone who is very concerned about how they feel about themselves.
Why are you focusing on what others think of you? This insecure behavior is unfortunate and I associate it as a sign of weakness (where’s your self-assuredness). Part of what defines my dominant personality and Mistress-ness is that I am confident in myself. I don’t give a flying fuck who thinks what of me or if I meet others’ standards.
I only answer to myself.
I only dance to the beat of my own drum.
So the question isn’t why do I think you’re mundane but more adequately: Why do you think you’re mundane?
Great post. Really made me think. Do you have an email? I am a lean, athletic, intelligent sub boy in D.C.
I love this post. I agree. I hate roller coasters….Not because they are not thrilling or dangerous or they make me scared, its because they do none of the above..Im along for the ride…I dont wanna ride, I want to take you on one….I want to be the one who makes the ride thrilling…I want my partner to be the operator of the roller coaster not the patron…..get in and get colorful…..dont watch the grass grow…make it grow
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Why do i think i'm mundane? As a 24/7 slave, there are parts of my life that are mundane. Boring. But i love the routine and order, and that is part of my slavehood. Yes, Master and i have even gotten into mundane sex ruts before. Tie me up, fuck me, flog me, etc. To others this may sound wild, but it does get boring if it's just repeated over and over. Sometimes the routine is nice and comforting, but it would get old very, very fast.
I agree, it's a state of mind and a statement of one's self-opinion. One needs to be happy in one's own skin. Vanilla or not.
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