For inquiring minds: Did the new bf meet the goal of 26 orgasms in 26 days?
The simple answer is “No”. On top of that we didn’t even see each other last week.
Last night was the first night we’ve seen each other since last Monday and I when I got to his place the air was so thick you could cut it with a cheese knife. We had been having some heated discussions via text and over the phone within the week so I expected as much.
What I didn’t expect to hear after 45 minutes of arguing was this: “I don’t think I can do BDSM with you anymore.”
It felt like a Mack truck had just hit me and kept on truckin’! Tears welled in my eyes and I literally choked up. I was speechless. A million questions swirled thru my mind and the ones I could muster out his only parroted response was, “I don’t know.”
It’s bad enough when someone tells you something that feels like you royally messed up but it’s another thing entirely when they can’t explain it or give you reasons why they feel the way they do.
I’m still in semi-shock and I suppose this means unofficially I am back to the Mundane self, at least as long as I want to be with him and he feels this way…
Wow, that sucks – sorry that you have to go through that. i really hope things work out for you 🙁
That is terrible news. From reading the earlier posts, I had a suspicion that the two of you weren't completely on the same level when it came to the kinks.
I know what it is like because my wife isn't into the lifestyle the way I am. I'm lucky that she does have some interest in controlling me, but I've accepted that we are not truly perfect for each other.
Sometimes, if you really love someone to the point where you still don't want to lose them, you have to accept it too.
@ Tightlybound: Thanks, me too!
@ Littleshaun: Yes, I was getting that suspicion as well though was thrown off because he verbalized wanting more and had received more before we were "officially" dating. Hrm. Anyway yes it's a compromise that I'm dealing with at the moment. Thanks for the advice!
That's really disappointing. I hope that you're able to find a way to balance being with him without the kink.
looks like tis break up season again.. sorry to hear that.. i came to this blog expectining something else entirely.. tc.. my hug to you.
Oh Dear,
I'm truly sorry!
I have a lot to say to You, but I don't know the whole story between you two.
Still, I'm certain and instist to this:
The "mental" Domination, MUST foregoes the "physical" Domination.
Men need- FIRST OF ALL- to be brainwashed in order to truly submit.
BDSM is fine for Me but, it's not enough.
It's a game that happens, lasts for a couple of hours and finishes.
Believe Me honey, that's not enough for a Dominant Woman who wants Her male to submit to Her.
BUT, once Your Mental Dominance on him is established deep in his mind, then things are different.
I don't know what will happen with you two, but in a similar case, when slave dared to tell Me something like that, I told him firmly:
"Listen to Me, that's the ONLY way I demand things to move.
I want it all, or nothing.
Take it or leave it!"
Best Wishes Dear!
I'm sorry, I know that relationships are hard, and throwing true power exchange in makes them harder sometimes.
I hope that you get what you are looking for, eventually.
"I don't know what will happen with you two, but in a similar case, when slave dared to tell Me something like that, I told him firmly:
'Listen to Me, that's the ONLY way I demand things to move.
I want it all, or nothing.
Take it or leave it!'"
What ridiculous crap. The whole world is laughing at you.
Anonymous,
YOU are the one who's ridiculous.
First of all, cause you don't have the guts to use a name, not even a nickname, but have the audacity to insult Me without knowing Me.
Second, you get even more ridiculous cause you criticize My comment, without having the slightest idea and info about what My relationship with My slave is like.
So,fuck off!
You go Ms Alice!!
you got a neatly designed blog, like the layout, will dig into the content later, just a quick note really, any ways, so long..