self awareness
The light side of dark age play
A Contribution Writing for Kink Weekly Did reading that title send a little shiver down your spine? It use to do the same for me too. When I first entered the scene many years ago (but who’s counting!), Age play wasn’t really ‘in’. It wasn’t a kink people were talking about. There were no spaces … [View more…]
Guest of Erotic Awakening: Polyandry 101
Last month I took a few minutes to speak with Dan an Dawn of Erotic Awakening and Beyond The Love. They’re the original big thinkers behind the annual 3-day polyamory convention in Columbus, Ohio. Check it out if you are curious or identify as polyamorous for “Education, workshops, social activities, meeting other polyamory people and more”. In 2017 … [View more…]
Undermining Others: The Truth About Benevolent Sexism
A Contribution Writing for Kink Weekly You may have heard the phrase “Toxic masculinity” a lot recently and rightfully so. It’s a reference to culturally-constructed ideals that highlight the violent, emotionally and sexually aggressive behavior perpetrated by male identified people. In my opinion this is a gendered behavior encompassing masculinity on a whole. It’s a … [View more…]
A sadist & a sensualist walk into a bar…
I don’t like jokes like this but I do love to laugh. Despite my best efforts, I am a giggler. It doesn’t matter how intense a scene or my hands-on play gets, I can cackle at whatever reaction I am getting from my partner if it delights me. The louder, more vocal and expressive they … [View more…]
I assaulted someone I love
My puppy is back and it’s been an adjustment for us both. I couldn’t help but chuckle softly as I was watched him express genuine over-the-top anger at the video game he was currently playing as he cursed and threw down the controller. It made me laugh until I caught myself mid thought, ‘He needs … [View more…]
Rant: The Disposable Domme™
You’re not a good dominant if you don’t have a way to make ends meet.You’re not a good dominant if you’re free loading on friends or family.You’re not a good dominant if you don’t have control of your own life. I know that sounds harsh and comes off as elitist but it’s my honest opinion. … [View more…]