For years, I thought My need to be in control in BDSM was purely about preference and personality. I have always been strong-willed and not quiet about My feelings (unsurprisingly!). It wasn’t until I started therapy in My early 20’s that I realized how much My childhood shaped this dynamic. Growing up in a emotionally … [Tell me more…]
Breaking up in a BDSM power exchange dynamic can be particularly challenging due to the unique emotional, psychological, and structural elements of the relationship. These breakups often feel more difficult for all involved. This is noticeable as part of what makes these relationships so special, is the depths and expansiveness of where they reach. Power … [Tell me more…]
Over the years I’ve pondered some important questions… But my latest one has not stopped niggling in the back of my mind… Am I Queer? But what is ‘Queer’ anyway I’ve thought often. Is it a sexual orientation? A gender identity or expression? A community and culture flair? After years of reading, examining, and listening … [Tell me more…]
“Greetings to you, the lucky finder of this Golden Ticket, from Mistress d20domme! I spank you warmly on the bottom! Tremendous things are in store for you! Many wonderful surprises await you!“ If you’re American, you are no doubt familiar with the tale of Roald Dahl’s 1964 novel ‘Charlie and the Chocolate Factory‘. Willy Wonka, the founder of … [Tell me more…]
Keep your standards too high I’ve been told on more than one occasion… ‘Wow you have really high standards.’ or ‘Maybe your standards are too high.’ The thing is, I don’t believe in having “too high standards”. I believe in unrealistic standards – they can be high, low, or just shit. Over the years in … [Tell me more…]
Well, this is my personal decree that I am, as of this year, 100% done playing with newbies in the kink community. I know that sounds harsh and elitist but, that’s my preference now. Blame stupid boys for being stupid. After years and years of painstakingly meeting new submissives, coddling cucks, cultivating what appears to … [Tell me more…]
As anyone knows, this current pandemic has combined some of the worst elements of humanity for us. We have fears about an invisible, hard to detect contagion on top of forced social and physical isolation by our governments. Even on the surface it’s easy to see why this is a stressful time for even the … [Tell me more…]
I had the pleasure of having a virtual drink and chat with the duo Lady Petra and SafferMaster of Kinky Cocktail Hour while they sipped a very delicious looking Mojito. They claim I am the busiest Domme in the Universe but they clearly don’t know how many, many naps I take in between everything haha. … [Tell me more…]
I hung out with the fabulous Aunt Suzie and her producer Ashlen this month. This was a live interview with questions from listeners about Femdomming, and BDSM lifestyles or just about anything you can think of when it comes to being in the BDSM Community. We chatted about kink lifestyle, hottest moments, and strangest and … [Tell me more…]