i had just finished getting ready for bed when Mistress came into the room and asked me if i had enough energy to have some fun. Even if i was much more tired than i was, the answer would have still been an automatic and enthusiastic “Yes!” “Good” Mistress said “A deal has been struck … [Tell me more…]
The kink and BDSM community is an effervescent, diverse space where individuals explore their fantasies, desires, and boundaries. I’ve learned after two decades within the community what’s really important. At the heart of this exploration are two fundamental principles: consent and privacy. These principles not only ensure the safety and well-being of participants but also foster … [Tell me more…]
I am be ranting but follow me… Ever since I was a kid, I hated my name. Genuinely distasted being called it. My parents thought it would a great idea to combine their two names (I see you other Black families!). In theory this can work, in practice it usually ends up feeling forced. I … [Tell me more…]
Over the years I’ve pondered some important questions… But my latest one has not stopped niggling in the back of my mind… Am I Queer? But what is ‘Queer’ anyway I’ve thought often. Is it a sexual orientation? A gender identity or expression? A community and culture flair? After years of reading, examining, and listening … [Tell me more…]
If you don’t know already… I. Love. Service. Submission. When I first stepped into the world of kink, the biggest draw for me aside from sexual growth was the desire to be catered to. The classical imagery of Femdoms with their feet up, a constantly topped up glass in their hand, massages on demand, attentiveness … [Tell me more…]
Hierarchy. Reading the simple noun alone might elicit a physical and automatic reaction. Did it for you? For some people, the hatred for hierarchy runs deep. Despite that, we see hierarchies play out every day in our vanilla lives. Hierarchies often play a part to determine an individual’s or group’s status, privilege, and access to … [Tell me more…]
I was delighted to be welcomed back to chat in depth with someone who understands kinky and BDSM as a means of personal growth. I joined Kinky Wellness coach, Dana Shergill of The Partition: Home of Kinky Wellness again for another chat! You might remember that she is a big advocate for integrating kink into … [Tell me more…]
A couple of weekends ago, I taught at the popular kinky weekend-long, true, complete hotel takeover, Winter Fire. My marker for the “success” of an event I attend is normally: With those in mind, the event was a total success! I have denied (ignored?) that I have a total Ownership fetish. What’s that mean? To … [Tell me more…]
This year I will be double d20s! I entered the kink community nearly 20 years ago as a student and observer and stand now as a kinky lifestyle educator. I still love to chronicle my transition from mundane to the marvelous Mistress I see reflected back in the mirror each day. To say I am … [Tell me more…]