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D/s service building from within

May 5, 2024 by d20domme

If you don’t know already… I. Love. Service. Submission. When I first stepped into the world of kink, the biggest draw for me aside from sexual growth was the desire to be catered to. The classical imagery of Femdoms with their feet up, a constantly topped up glass in their hand, massages on demand, attentiveness … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Femdom Tagged: D/s, domestic servitude, female domination, FemDom, male submission, service submission, skills, thinking

I am my own Primary

April 5, 2024 by d20domme

Hierarchy. Reading the simple noun alone might elicit a physical and automatic reaction. Did it for you? For some people, the hatred for hierarchy runs deep. Despite that, we see hierarchies play out every day in our vanilla lives. Hierarchies often play a part to determine an individual’s or group’s status, privilege, and access to … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Relationships Tagged: bdsm, D/s, ENM, female domination, FemDom, hierarchy, polyamory, polyandry, relationships

Guest of The Partition #2: Age & Pet Play

March 5, 2024 by d20domme

I was delighted to be welcomed back to chat in depth with someone who understands kinky and BDSM as a means of personal growth. I joined Kinky Wellness coach, Dana Shergill of The Partition: Home of Kinky Wellness again for another chat! You might remember that she is a big advocate for integrating kink into … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Podcast Tagged: D/s, FemDom, fetishes, lifestyle, opinion, Podcasts, sex coach, sexual wellness, the partition, thoughts, wellness

Obscuring Ownership?

February 5, 2024 by d20domme

A couple of weekends ago, I taught at the popular kinky weekend-long, true, complete hotel takeover, Winter Fire. My marker for the “success” of an event I attend is normally: With those in mind, the event was a total success! I have denied (ignored?) that I have a total Ownership fetish. What’s that mean? To … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Personal Journal Tagged: collar and leash, D/s, female domination, FemDom, Ownership, relationships, thinking

Kinky Bucket List: 40 at 40

January 5, 2024 by d20domme Leave a Comment

This year I will be double d20s!  I entered the kink community nearly 20 years ago as a student and observer and stand now as a kinky lifestyle educator. I still love to chronicle my transition from mundane to the marvelous Mistress I see reflected back in the mirror each day. To say I am … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Personal Journal Tagged: 40th birthday, bdsm, bucket list, D/s, female led relationship, FemDom, kinky, Patreon

I gave MsC a try…again

September 12, 2023 by d20domme

For those in the know, I’ve been around. I started my kink journey on the West coast and the community, dedication, and peer pairing I received, even as a wee-little baby Domme were formidable for me. One of the first spaces I was allowed into, although I had no business there at the time, was … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Personal Journal Tagged: bdsm, community, convention, D/s, female domination, FemDom, M/s, Master/slave, Mid-Atlantic M/s, MsC, thinking

Guest of The Partition: Sexual Wellness

September 5, 2023 by d20domme

I am someone who has been on a lifelong academic journey to uncover and discover what makes us who we are and explains the kinks we’re into. That’s why I couldn’t pass up a chance to chat with Kinky Wellness coach, Dana Shergill of The Partition: Home of Kinky Wellness! She advocates approaching kink as … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Podcast Tagged: D/s, FemDom, fetishes, lifestyle, opinion, Podcasts, sex coach, sexual wellness, the partition, thoughts, wellness

BDSpectrum: Neurodiversity in D/s

July 5, 2023 by d20domme

Throughout my 15+ years embedded in kinky spaces I have made an observation. There is a distinct overlap between those who identify as neurodiverse and those who are part of the BDSM community. Noticing the patterns of this intersectionality has been even easier, because finally, we as a society, are becoming increasingly aware of neurodiversity, especially … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Community Tagged: ADD, ADHD, Autism, bdsm, community, D/s, hyperfocus, neurodivergence, neurodiversity, neurodiversity kink, sexual identity, sexuality, thinking

Debunking ‘topping from the bottom’

June 5, 2023 by d20domme Leave a Comment

Topping from the bottom. Bratting from the bottom. Topping from below. Sub-sparring. I’ve heard it called many things. This discussion bores me but I think it’s crucial to identify the flaws within it. In my opinion, this phrase is possibly one of the most misunderstood in the entire BDSM lexicon and a useless phrase that … [Tell me more…]

Posted in: Thoughts Tagged: bdsm, bottoming, D/s, relationships, submission, thinking, topping, topping from the bottom
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