Femdom and FLR isn’t just a kink, it’s a lifestyle. If you’re living a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) or embodying Femdom as a genuine lifestyle, you know the exhaustion I’ll speak of intimately. You open your inbox to find yet another message that reads like a poorly written script from someone’s late-night browsing session. You sit … [Tell me more…]
December has always been a month of reflection for Me and many others. This year, I find Myself particularly deep in thought but grateful for the courage to let go. Living a 24/7 Female-led Relationship lifestyle isn’t just about what I’ve choose to embrace, it’s equally about what I choose to release. This month, I’ve … [Tell me more…]
I’m done hosting visitors in My DMs There’s a certain type of traveler I’ve grown weary of hosting, I call them the Kinky Tourist™. You know the kind. They arrive bright-eyed and overpacked with fantasy, ready to “experience” the sights of Dominance, devotion, and discipline, but without the slightest intention of staying long enough to … [Tell me more…]
Let Me start with a confession: Twenty years ago, when My play partner nervously presented Me with a small locked device and an even smaller key, I laughed. Not out of mockery, but pure bewilderment. “You want Me to… what? Hold onto this? For how long?” Up until that point I had only heard of … [Tell me more…]
There is a question that has been sitting heavy in My chest lately. It has begun to color the way I see this entire lifestyle I’ve devoted Myself to: Does the kind of slave I seek even exist anymore? I don’t ask this lightly. I don’t ponder it as a ‘what I want is so … [Tell me more…]
I’ve been a spanko since, well, forever! This is one of the few fetishes I enjoy giving and receiving. So it’s no surprise that I incorporate impact play as an “initiation ritual” for someone new I play. I consider it is a first step to serving Me. Why do I like impact play with new … [Tell me more…]
I share a lot of the positives of My lifestyle but it’s not always an easy lifestyle. Being a Femdom is an exercise in power, control, and the careful orchestration of a dynamic that feeds everyone involved. But let Me be real for a moment, it’s also an exercise in patience. And when you’re a … [Tell me more…]
For years, My work in the BDSM lifestyle has been centered on education, community-building, and radically honest dialogue. I’ve poured My energy into kink events, discussions, workshops, and classes across the globe that help other kinksters explore BDSM in safe, informed, and consensual ways. But now, I’m making the difficult decision to step back from … [Tell me more…]
I want to take this Black History Month to talk about the intersection of dominance, race, and BDSM relationships, which is a profound and deeply personal topic for Me. As a dominant Black woman in alternative relationships with two white cishet presenting male submissives, this 20 year journey has been as rewarding as it has … [Tell me more…]