I am a FemDom.
I am a female dominant who controls the relationships I am in through the use of power exchange and an overall power dynamic.
This is my public service announcement to say something that has really irritated me for quite some time.
FEMDOM ≠ Strap-on play!
It doesn’t equal pegging, anal play, or any other form of a female taking your asshole as hers. I’m sorry the media has lied to you. And by media I mean every Tumblr, Twitter, Reddit or other imagery bucket that could be construed as knowing what the hell they’re talking about. I’m saddened that the first set of images I see when I Google “Female domination BDSM” all portray females with massively sized strap-on cocks.
You wanna know a secret? I’ve been in the scene for over 10 years and I have pegged one person. Only one.
Yes, unusual for a “Femdom”
Don’t misunderstand me; anal play can definitely be a form of female dominance. But it’s not my form. And it’s not every Femdom’s form. We don’t all crave the feeling of a cock between our legs, well least not the strap-on kind. We’re not all foaming at the mouth to tie you down, bend you over, and make you beg for X amount of inches. The men who choose to engage in female led dynamics seem to come with a duffle bag of preconceived notions about what Femdom should and shouldn’t be.
Before I promptly gag them I want them to know that my female dominance is about whatever the fuck I want it to be. Period.
That’s the beauty of true female domination. It’s not about you. It’s not about your penis. It’s not about what you think. It’s not about what you want.
It’s about ME.
Are there any other questions?
(But maybe I’ll explore it more…ya know for “science”)
I completely agree!! Whenever it is that I am lucky enough to be penetrated by my Mistress, there is never a doubt that it is something that she does for me, because she thinks I have deserved the honor and the treat. I am under no misconception that taking her pegging is a sacrifice that am making for her amusement or enjoyment … even if it does amuse her.
This cracks me up.
I think that there is only a tenuous connection between what passes for femdom in the media (including blogs, Tumblr, etc.) and what is actually practiced by real people. I wonder, how many guys look at some of the femdom blogs (or prodomme websites), and fixate on those images, and never make the metal transition to what they actually could have with a partner.
Recently I was reading some web board, and a guy asked about chastity devices. Almost immediately he was told to avoid them because they lead to pegging, cuckolding, and becoming feminised.
Anyway, this was a nice change of pace. Keep on doing what you're doing.
Thanks guys!