I’ve cleared my spam box, especially for this post, as I know I’m going to illicit some strong emotions in some readers.
I have a very specific way of doing my kink.
It manifests as high protocol, extreme structure, decedent clothing, trips, and fetish wear, expensive toys, and yes, invasive rules that I try to uphold for myself as well as those who serve me. I’ve been called “elitist” as a pseudo put down but it’s water off my sub’s back.
I’ve been in kink scene since 2003 and over that time I have carved out exactly the way I want to do things within my little space in the kink world.
It’s not for everyone and it’s not meant to be for everyone.
Call me old-fashioned but I don’t submit. Never have outside of a very temporary educational sense in 2004, and never will again. I don’t play with switches normally beyond a scene, as I have no room in my Queendom for those who have a taste and affinity for my side of the slash. I don’t mentor switch Femdoms as my style doesn’t lend to itself to that notion. And the more “hardcore” and inflexible a Femdom is, the more likely I am to befriend them as we trade sickeningly sadistic suggestions for submissives.
Your endless spanking and tame “punishment” stories bore me. Sorry. I run on high octane foolery like waterboarding, undeniable hypno-slut undertaking, tastefully tactile mental play, and screams…lots of screams.
I know, I know, Femdoms can switch, switchy folks can Top right along the best of us, anyone can be fluid through any role they choose, but, Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That’s Okay (YKINMKBYKIOK). And my kink of sticking to a very rigid, specific, immersive introspective Old Guard-esque influenced way of doing things isn’t for the faint of heart. But please know I care not ultimately what type of Femdom you are, I’m living my best life focusing on my own style.
I choose my own adventure and you should too.
I decided on the name d20domme because as I have said, playing with me or serving me is akin to chaotically, consensually, rolling a 20-sided die. You could be taken to a very high roll or a very low roll depending on what I am feeling, but trust me, both are worth the ride.
I am an experimental Femdom with a modern, gender fuckery fueled, power exchange mindset. My dick is always bigger than yours, at least I’ll play that way. As much as I respect the Old Guard, I love the idea of taking its military and biker structure and tweaking it for my own self-serving, mostly sadistic, pleasure.
I love the idea that we are always growing and expanding. Even us Femdoms are not unerring. I know I’ve made missteps over the years and work hard on self correction through honest feedback, but honing in on my strengths and building them up to an almost illusive standard has given me the top tier Femdommery feelings I love to bask in. When I started on my journey, I would’ve been terrified of the type of Femdom I am now comfortably living in 24/7.
I am everything I am meant to be.
I am a disciplinarian, a not-humble-whatsoever humiliatrix, Head Queen Bitch In Charge, who considers themselves very well versed in something that comes as naturally to me as breathing your air does. I take charge and command because it’s a part of who I am at my core.
I’ve said before I am a performer, a fashion forward exhibitionist, a smutty scientist and the willing ones who serve me are my living experiments and submissive stunt dummies. I don’t think that my 24/7, TPE, FLR, medium to high-protocol D/s Queendom is inherently better or should be the goal of others (although I’ll be wholly flattered if I inspire you). However, if you and yours enjoy lower, but still very potent protocols, please continue and you do you…
Just don’t get upset at me if my kink of elitism is not your kink.