I’m in a BDSM slump. I’ve been in them before but they usually fix themselves before long. They’ve not lasted for a year or more, yet here I am.
There was a time long ago in my early scene years where I thought I liked training submissives. I was good at it. It was a point of pride. Breaking someone down and rebuilding them in your image sounds like every dominant’s dream.
But, it takes time and dedication and a lot of patience. I find myself very short on all of these.
If I’m being honest the boy has been much more than I ever bargained for. Navigating polyamory and kink at the same time is proved to be a rather daunting task. If I focus too much on one then the other gets pushed to the back burner.
How is a domme to do it all?
Do you ever feel exhausted by kink? Like the lifestyle requires much more than you can give it?
It’s a terrible self deprecating cycle. I lack the desire to do kink but when I try to muster the energy and I fail to do it properly I lose the desire. How much of a D/s relationship falls to the dominant to initiate? Where does/how the submissive suggest play without sounding like they’re topping from the bottom?
I can’t tell if this is better or worse than a vanilla sexual slump.
I promised myself that this year I’d fall back in love with kink but what if kink just doesn’t want to fall in love with me?