I’ve been in the kink community for more than a decade. I have met some people who I’ve wanted to learn more from, those who have unfolded to be a cautionary kink tale for me, good friends, amazing presenters, wild newbies, people who wanted to share some of their most desired kinks with me, and all those in between. It’s been a wild ride.
Occasionally I take breaks from kink and I find this has usually helped me recenter myself, reassess what is (or isn’t) working currently, streamlining my approach, and honestly reflect on where my intentions sit for the near future. This has been the longest I’ve gone without a kink break – which is difficult to do when you also live with your 24/7 kink partner. It’s been really hard to find this space for myself personally this year. Harder than it’s been every other year. I have been in hardcore denial that the pandemic has had a huge and draining effect on me – sure I miss traveling to events and exploring the festivities, meeting kinky friends from near and far, and of course the shopping – yes I have a shopping problem, no I don’t want to fix it haha. I’ve been keeping busy with side projects, getting back into writing heavily, taking a lot of self care time, designing concepts I have only thought about but not had time to do. For me, the pandemic wasn’t weighing on me the way I saw it was to those around me.
At least that’s what I thought.
It’s becoming clearer and clearer that most things BDSM related are taking a massive toll on my mental health, personal energy levels, and overall outlook on my kink future. Simply put, I’m burned out. I had to step back from offering kink-related coaching services, let go some of kink-based writing spots, and really take the time to honestly say, ‘You’re trying to do too much right now.‘
As a lifestyle Femdom with a leadership core compass leading my life it’s hard to really take a big step back from something that is a shining star in my life. It’s been my happy place for so long that it’s hard to admit when things don’t just feel the same.
I will return – I always do, I’m just not sure exactly when that will be. Be well, stay safe, and kink to any level that pleases you. Here’s looking at you 2021!
Hey hon. I feel you. I have been on my break for over 2 years, and out of the scene since last March (pandemic-related). In that time I had a chance to reasess so many things. It rearranged my focus on the other important aspects of my life. My family, my job, my mental health, etc. Sometimes, we need these breaks to realize what gives us a foundation as a person. For as long as I have known you, you have always been great at taking that step back. Take as much time as you want. Kink will always be there for you when you get back. ❤
it is hard to admit when your burning out, thanks for the lines:
“As a lifestyle Femdom with a leadership core compass leading my life it’s hard to really take a big step back from something that is a shining star in my life. It’s been my happy place for so long that it’s hard to admit when things don’t just feel the same.”
Seeing those lines just cemented my own need to step back, regroup and assess. Some times seeing what you already know written down, triggers clarity!
thank you!
So happy this was helpful. It’s hard as the D-types to “Dom” ourselves in this way at times but is often needed. Wishing you a good recharge!